How has the family court system destroyed your life?

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How has the family court system destroyed your life?

[Judy]

My son's life as well as my grandson's life and me and other "paternal" family members has been ruined by family court!
In this case it is and was pathetically obvious that the Mother isn't taking care of the child. The judge seemed to think it is and was ok to allow the "maternal" grandparents to raise the boy , knowingly excluding the Dad, (my son), from his life and ours as well. My son has spent the years since his son's birth until recently going to court to get his rights to see his son executed and at one point to at least get joint custody. All to an exhausting no pre-vail ending! None of us, (including my son), saw much of our precious child his entire first year of life. Everything my son has done since his birth has been to and for the benefit of his child. My grandson loves his Dad and in spite of everything, is torn up by all of this change in the end.

Here is food for thought: If I had been the "maternal" grandma does that mean I would have been allowed to raise my grandson???

None of this is right! I thought the courts were supposed to,(in these kinds of situations), give custody or at least physicall custody to the best parent not the "granparent"! I mean, we would have had a lot more to do with his life too, if we had been allowed to!!!

The mother wasn't even in town or around her son at all for six months. During that time, my son was as involved as he could be pending wether or not how much the other grandparents would allow and what they allowed.

There are many other "facts" of this case that make it very obvious an injustice was done here but I am not going to go into it here.

The bottom line is, my son sees his son two days of every week and we live in another town so it is even more limited as to how often we can see our grandchild. We love our grandson every bit as much as the "other" grandparents do and it hurts deeply!!!! Also, my son tells me it is heart felt and very painful every time he has to take his boy back to the other grandparent's home since his son cries and says, "Daddy, I want to stay home with you."

[Darrick Lynn Scott-Farnsworth]

Has your son hired a lawyer and filed an appeal of the custody order? Have you become politically involved and lobbied all of your politicians concerning changing the laws? The best parent is both parents.

[Jennifer "Johnson" Ritchie]

In 1997 the family court legally kidnapped my 3 children. They were "placed" in fostor care with a family who eventually adopted them for all of the wrong reasons. It became a disgusting battle over who would ultimately end up with my children and everyone wanted to be the "CHOSEN ONES". It was all a very sickening ordeal. Over the years, because after all.... I AM THE MOM !!!!! i have stayed in very close touch with all of my children. No matter where they were, I was always right there...a town away or a street away. They, over the years, came to know that even tho they had been adopted, that I was still very much their mother. It was hard for them alot of the time having to choose between me and the "other mother" who turned out to be an alcoholic who has turned my children into overweight, off the hook teenagers who care about nothing in this life except the next bit of drama they can get themselves into. It's repulsive to think that family court thought this would be "better interest of my children". I can remember going to visit them to find that their bedrooms REAKED of urine from the 6 or so other foster children living there. The inside of their home has always looked like a trash dump and has always smelled about the same way. My youngest is 16 now and has been cutting herself since she was 13 and NO ONE will do anything about it. She has left home for as long as 8 days at a time at the age of 14 and NO ONE will do anything about it. My now 18 year old daughter is now pregnant by a man she was allowed to live with since the age of 15. At 15, the so called "other mother" gave her permission to move in with her same age bf and his drug addicted mom. 1 year later, after my daughter got off work one evening , she went home to find her boyfriends mother dead in her own vomit from a drug overdose. WILL SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME HOW ANY OF THIS WAS A BETTER LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN TO HAVE TO LIVE?

[Darrick Lynn Scott-Farnsworth]

Your story is a very common story and unless our elected politicians become more aware of the damage that they have caused with their laws your story will keep on repeating itself. More people have to become politically active and involved their friends and family in their actions. God bless and good luck.